To conceive a dream in your mind that you never get to conceive in your body can be a heavy burden to live with, I know the utter despair that comes with living this reality. You celebrate the conceptions of your family and friends, sphere heading baby showers, wondering when or if it will ever be your turn. I have been there, I understand your pain, and I also know the power of letting go and healing.
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The cause of your #Infertility isn't as important and how you respond to infertility. For me, fertility treatments didn't work and I began to drown in infertility it was slowly becoming my identity. I felt like less than a woman, when I looked at myself I saw failure. How could I not do what should happen so easily simply because I was a woman.
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I became a mom at 17 but because I didn't conceive her I was almost blinded to the immense blessing that God had given me. My daughter, my oldest, saved my life. Even though I was struggling with #infertility my love for her and my desire to be my best for her compelled me to fight.
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For me, motherhood didn't come in the traditional manner but it did come. I have beautiful daughters and grandkids that I adore. Me, this #Infertile woman has grandkids. When I decided that #infertility wasnt my identity and I got help to deal with the grief, I began to rise. I was determined that infertility wasn't going to be my end.
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It is #Infertility Awareness Week so I thought I would share a helpful tip from my #Blog post, Insult to Infertility.
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There are just certain things you shouldn't say nor assume about women who don't have children, maybe its a choice maybe she is struggling to conceive either way, keep your opinions quiet. Some of the most insulting and hurtful comments I have heard came from family, people are clueless. One comment in particular has stuck with me for decades and while I am not hurt by it anymore, I still hear it and I just shake my head, she truly didn't know what she was saying.
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Some days it is what the fuck it is, today is one of those days.
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I have my granddaughter for the week
I am nursing #Endometriosis
I have surgery on Monday
I need to get the house organized
I just came home from my Pre-Op appointment
I am extremely fatigued
But, for once I am not going to let #OCD and #Anxiety force me to push myself to get everything done in a day.
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I am going to have some food, take something for the horrible pain, and play with my this active toddler. Like most women, I pile so much onto myself but in that load of things to do, rarely can I find myself. Today, I am putting myself first, as long as everything in my eyesight is clean and clear, I can keep the anxiety away. I am giving myself the day off.
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Whatever doesn't get done just won't be done, it is what it is!
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When you allow things to be what they are you will notice less stress in your life
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There is nothing wrong with having expectations but when we attach our well being to outcomes, we can end up in the grips of disappointment and/or frustration.
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People should honor their word but what if they don't?
People should be responsible but what happens when they aren't.
Plans should go as planned but what happens when everything falls apart?
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When you live life with the understanding that sometimes people flake out, don't show up, lie on you, etc; you learn to detach your emotional and mental well being from people, expectations, and outcomes.
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This doesn't mean you don't plan, have faith, expect good things to happen, or not trust people, it means that no matter what you are good.
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